It’s hard to imagine that we have just passed the 22nd anniversary of the late Princess Diana’s death. The late Princess left behind quite a legacy. She was the mother of Prince William and Prince Harry. She was known for her beauty and elegance, but also her humanitarian work, which earned her the affectionate title of “The People’s Princess,” as she often would travel to other countries for humanitarian causes. On one such occasion, she shared a highly emotional moment with a fellow mother.
Only weeks before her death on August 31, 1997, Diana went on a humanitarian trip to Bosnia as part of her work with landmine awareness. It would prove to be her final trip ever. She was accompanied by Ken Rutherford and Jerry White, both who recalled the emotional journey for the 2017 HBO documentary, “Diana, Our Mother: Her Life and Legacy.” Rutherford and White both spoke to Entertainment Weekly prior to the documentary’s release and shared several stories about Diana’s compassionate nature. For White, the story that sticks out most for him was during the unplanned detour she took to the Sarajevo War Cemetery on August 10, 1997.
“The image of her in a cemetery in Sarajevo, on the last day of our three-day trip [still haunts me]. It wasn’t planned. It was never on the itinerary. But Diana told me three times, ‘I can’t get this picture of me in a cemetery out of my mind.’ She asked me if there was a cemetery nearby, as it was something we should visit. ‘Jerry, I have this feeling, this image of me in a cemetery, it’s strange.’ We were running late for a final reception, and there was no room for this detour, but Princess Diana seemed adamant, mysteriously,” he recalled.
White added, “So, we drove out of the way to the former Olympic stadium that had become a massive graveyard for those killed during the war. I watched as Diana took her place among hundreds of tombstones. It was eerie, now that I reflect on it. She walked slowly, among tombstones and even yellow rose bushes. She met a Bosnian mother tending to the grave of her son, grieving visibly. Diana didn’t speak Bosnian, and this mother didn’t know English. So, they just embraced. So intimately, so physical, so emotional, mother-to-mother.”
“It was vintage Diana, reaching out, wiping the mother’s tears and cheeks. It’s the only framed photograph of Diana I still have in my home,” he continued. Reflecting on that particular moment, White revealed that he found himself wondering about Diana’s strange intuition in the aftermath of her tragic accident just a few weeks later. “After her death in Paris only weeks later, I came to wonder whether the Princess intuited her own death, her burial. I don’t know, but maybe, psychically, intuitively, Diana sensed she was going to die. It still gives me chills when I recall this powerful, unscripted, unplanned moment, somehow prescient,” White said.
“Diana listened more than she spoke. It was intense to watch her absorb human pain. She was hyper-intuitive and fully appropriate in the face of people’s suffering. She asked questions and gave her full attention, focusing her big eyes like a laser on the tragic story in front of her. Whenever I asked her how she might want to handle a particular visit, she’d say, ‘We’ll make it work. It’s all about the people.’ Diana repeated how it was simply important ‘to care enough to show up’ and be present,” White said about the empathy and compassion that Diana displayed during the entire trip.
He furthermore explained, “She’d ask questions like, ‘Please tell me your story. What happened to you? How did you lose your leg? Where did you find your courage and strength to survive?’ Diana would invariably reach out and touch each survivor at some point in the conversation, never cringing in the face of scars and stumps and open sores. She’d also bring in the family members, asking mothers and siblings what they had experienced, understanding a parent’s pain watching their kids suffer. She invited hope by inquiring about each survivor’s dream for the future. And she always made some side jokes to poke the tense air out of the bubble of tragedy. Humor is one of the top hallmarks of resilience, and Princess Diana always brought laughter and unexpected irreverence into the room.”